Take a moment to look at this photo and reflect on
your thoughts.
Be honest, did you stereotype or have negative feelings when you looked at it? If you did,
it’s o.k. Did you notice that we are a non-traditional family? It’s time that we open up and discuss racism and discrimination with
one another without judgment. It's time that we grow and heal together.
Racism and discrimination is a problem that plagues the
world. I’ll be honest; I didn’t want to
write this post. I would much prefer to
go about my day and ignore it. That
would be easiest for me, right? Well,
the issue with ignoring something is that it won’t go away. You shouldn’t act on your prejudices because everyone is the same on the inside. You should reflect on your thoughts and
feelings and deal with them before they come out as racist or discriminatory
actions. The problem with me telling you
this is no one wants to be told what to do or to think that they aren’t perfect,
so no one will listen to this.
Lets take a look at why you should be concerned with this
topic. Racism affects us all whether
you think so or not. Institutions are always implementing new rules and regulations to help end discrimination. These changes affect us all in different work institutions. As a teacher I have seen a couple of changes
in the past few years. One change is
that we can’t staff minority children in contained ESE classes as readily as we
used to. This change came about because
the number of minorities being staffed in ESE classes was disproportionate to
other students. We needed to impose strict rules because people were funneling the students that they didn't want to deal with in what they referred to as the "special" classes. The result or problem that has come about for teachers and students is that we have minority students who need to be
serviced outside of a mainstreamed classroom. Some of these students suffer being in an environment that isn’t right for
them. Without staffing equality in place, we have no choice but to question the motives of people wanting to take minority students out of the mainstream classroom. If this situation seems very confusing and not readily solved, it's because it is. Another change that is very recent is writing
office referrals for African American males. In my state, the number of referrals that is being written for these males is
disproportionate to their classmates. Something needed to be done to protect these males from being unfairly judged. So
teachers have been told, don’t write write referrals for these males.
The problem for some of our African American males is that sometimes, just like
their classmates, they need discipline and guidance to help them to be the best
that they can be. If
we don’t take a look inside of ourselves and at those around us, policies are going to get messy and make life much more complicated because we have no other choice but to impose rules to protect people being unfairly judged. If we don’t change, institutions
are forced to put practices into place to help right our wrongs. It would benefit everyone to make sure that we reflect on our actions to make change.
How can we help end discrimination? We need to talk to one
another and look at ourselves without judgement. If we
find that we have been hurtful with our words, discriminatory or have prejudices, it’s
o.k. we just need to change our
actions. I’ll share a very personal
example with you. I have some very sweet
friends that would do just
about anything to help us out. They
would care for my children and speak kind and thoughtful words to them. These same friends posted some very hurtful
literature on Facebook about gay people.
What they don’t know is that my mother is a lesbian. These words that they post are very hurtful
to me, but I’m used to seeing these words so I
ignore them and go about my day. I know
that these friends are good people and wouldn’t speak these unkind words to my children because it
would hurt my children to have someone speak of their grandmas this way. They would never look at my family; my
mother included, and spew the hateful message that they posted. They will
probably be shocked to see that lesbians can raise women to be very productive
members of society. Their thought
process is that they will all raise sinful gay children who are a plight on
society. Well here I am world, I have a
master’s degree, I’ve been with my husband for 20 years, I have 3 beautiful
children, I pay my taxes and I’ve never been to jail. They have been taught these prejudices
throughout their lives just
like we have all been taught something wrong throughout our lives. Come together and open up the dialog. Share your dialog with Tanesha, Amna and
myself in our comments section. Reflect on all of our
stories. Let’s make a change.
Link to our blog series with the buttons below.
Link to our blog series with the buttons below.
Great post! Man, I looked and looked at that picture and couldn't figure out what was wrong! My mothers in law are lesbians and I'm sure my late granny was too and it is so hurtful what your own family members will say online. It's hard to deal with and that is one reason I'm off Facebook. I'm trying to spread tolerance the best I can by starting with my littles.
ReplyDeleteWell I'm glad that you couldn't find anything wrong with my picture!!! Aside from the fact that we were going to a wedding later that day and my hair is twisted back to hold curls for the evening. lol. Thank you so much for stopping by. I'm sure that with hard work and lots of conversation we will see changes.
DeleteAmy, I am so thankful that you decided to start this blog series! Thank you for sharing the deeply personal story about your family!!!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for working with me Tanesha. I can't wait to do it again.
DeleteI didn't know your personal story before this and I am glad to learn more about you ... :)
ReplyDeleteThanks Amna. I hope that our posts made a bit of difference.
DeleteSo glad you shared your story! IT is so important for teachers to realize their students come from all walks of life and the most important thing is to love them and help them feel like they matter.
ReplyDeleteThank you. Giving personal information to the public is very difficult, but nothing will change without conversation.
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